Have you ever been on a diet that didn’t last?
- I used to do it all the time.
- Start with good intentions in the morning.
- By mid-afternoon, diet was something I was going to start another day.
I felt that temptation coming on this weekend.
- It wasn’t an 8-hour meltdown like I described above.
- However I did have a lot of the same feelings – screw this joy stuff!
- I didn’t feel great and I didn’t want to be joyful about it.
So I embraced my 8-hour meltdown experience – and gave joy the boot!
- I welcomed all the bummed out, angry and frustrated energy that kept kicking at my door.
- I felt it full on.
- For almost a full 24 hours.
I was grumpy.
- And even cried a little.
Around noon yesterday, I was through the worse of it.
- And started to get bored.
- When I stopped resisting it wasn’t as fun.
- I didn’t have anything to complain about because I just was.
An afternoon in the sunshine doing some yard work sealed the deal.
- I was back to my new normal of being rather happy.
- With a dose of periodic joy.
- It felt so much better to be in this space.
Surrendering was my key.
- Just falling into the grumpy anger made it eventually disappear.
- And left me feeling sort of purified on the other side.
How have you used surrender to move through situations?
Yesterday was a rough day.
- My girls went to doggy camp.
- We are qualifying Ruby (my newer dog) for longer stays.
- The house was eerily quiet.
The gray overcast loomed large.
- The sky spit rain.
- Seemingly continuously.
- The heaviness of the weather weighed on me.
Then Prince died.
- Prince was the ever present voice in so many adventures of my life.
- I grew into womanhood with Prince.
- I felt Prince down to my bones.
My Facebook feed flooded with grief.
- The emotions of my friends overwhelmed me.
- Bringing me to tears.
- Making an already challenging day much darker.
While I could never be joyful that Prince died, I struggled how to infuse a little joy in the day.
- I thought back to when Prince had played a bigger role in my life.
- Giggled at some the shenanigans I got myself into.
- Smiled as I stepped back into my frequently dancing body – boy I had some sexy moves!
While yesterday was not an overall joyful day, focusing on joy (even for moments) helped ease the pain.
- Gave me a break from the bleakness.
- Made me remember some really fun times.
- Helped me release extra emotion that belonged to others.
How do you tap into joy on days that feel like a struggle to imagine joy?
Today was a busy morning.
- Lots of work.
- People to talk to.
- Things to do on deadline.
One of my little joy reminders went off on my phone.
- It asked me, “How joyful do you feel?”
- The answer was not very.
- The work was going smoothly – but I wasn’t feeling totally joyful.
I decided to take my phone’s advice and take a joy break.
- James and the girls were going outside.
- It was delightful and sunny.
- I joined them for about 10 minutes.
I came back in smiling.
- I was more relaxed
- Work was easier.
- I was definitely more joyful.
How do you make break for joy during your day?