Last night my improv troupe hashed our show from last week.
- What did we hear from others?
- What went well?
- What did we wonder about?
One of the topics that came up was when to let go of an idea.
- In improv, there is no script.
- Audience members may offer suggestions.
- Scene partners have ideas too.
Sometimes, your scene partner has no idea what you are talking about when you pitch the initial frame.
- You can make a strong opening statement.
- And they take the ball and run a totally different direction than you expected.
- When do you let go of your vision for the scene and dance with your partner to uncharted territory?
That conversation hit home hard for me.
- For much I’ve my life, I’ve been the responsible one.
- Marge in Charge.
- Trying to take care of too many people.
Doing improv, I’m supposed to say the first thing that comes to mind.
- And play with my scene partner.
- No matter how they respond.
- It’s all about co-creation.
In the beginning, there were times where I felt sick because I let go.
- To my surprise the world did not end when I loosened the reins.
- I had to work through a little (some) (okay maybe a lot of) guilt.
- And even had some fun not being in charge.
Doing improv gave me a safe space to explore giving control to others.
- It took a few weeks to embrace.
- Now I like not being in charge all the time – in all areas of my life.
- It’s shocking to some – which makes it even funnier!
What is it time for you to let go of in your life for at least for a little bit?
As I infuse my life with more joy, I’ve become much more aware of my surroundings.
- Does my space feel beautiful?
- Is there anything I can do to upgrade it?
- Do I feel joy being in the space?
We have a lovely backyard and two fairly comfy chairs.
- There is no space for my drinks.
- Except on the grass next to the chair.
- Which means the drinks either get knocked over or become drinks for dogs.
Yesterday I realized I would love to have a table in the backyard near my chairs.
- What a novel concept!
- Even funnier?
- James had a 30-inch table near his grill that he rarely uses.
I dragged the black metal table over to my chairs.
- It works beautifully.
- However, does not look beautiful.
Currently it’s all about the rust.
- According to James, the table was made in either the 1940s or 50s.
- A neighbor gifted it to him.
- And its been outside for much of its life.
I’m not a crafty kind of person normally.
- However, am intrigued to make my new table prettier.
- I spent some time in Home Depot today talking to the gurus there.
- And have a plan of action – as well as some steel wool to take on the rust.
I’m a little nervous because I’ve never done anything like this before.
- The good news is this old table will be hard to ruin.
- Plus my back up plan is ready if I don’t like the work.
- (Hello James!)
Growing the joy in my life has become an adventure of trying new things.
What have you tried lately in your pursuit of joy?
On April 4th, I announced I was going to do a 30 days of joy challenge.
- 53 days later, I’m wrapping up my (renamed) 30 posts of joy challenge.
- Although focusing daily on joy, it was not pleasurable to blog seven days/week.
- (And sometimes working on the road was just too much!)
In my first post, I asked if I could stand experiencing a month of joy.
- I had to learn a lot to be able to embrace regular joy.
- And boy did I!
Five Lessons Learned From 30 Posts of Joy Challenge
1. I choose my emotions.
- No one makes me mad or happy.
- Stuff happens.
- I react – perhaps differently than you may.
Joy was a foreign concept.
- I was raised to a more negative orientation – like many people.
- If emotions did not happen to me, I had to give up being victim to them.
- Owning my choice is empowering.
2. A joy focus makes life more fun.
- Yes, I had to get used to the concept.
- And find I enjoy it.
- I laugh a lot more every day!
3. Everything feels easier when focusing on daily joy.
- I consciously worked on boosting the pleasure in my days.
- And set periodical reminders on my phone checking how joyful I was feeling.
- Stress faded over time creating less resistance – and more ease.
4. My creativity goes through the roof fueled by joy.
- I stopped focusing on potential challenges.
- Started playing with what could be.
- Jazzed with joy my mind just flies in really fun ways!
5. I see the world with new eyes thanks to my commitment to joy.
- The world is a more loving and beautiful place to me now.
- I’m “in the now” way more than I used to be.
- Not only do I notice when I don’t feel joyful, I’ve found ways to get me back there.
Joy is my new norm – and I love it!
- I could go on and on with things I’ve learned.
- How it’s impacted my relationships, my marriage – and even James.
- It’s really powerful stuff.
- I’m continuing on with my joy-focused life.
- Sharing stories and insights here.
- (And I’m not counting blog posts any more!)
How did the 30 days (posts) of joy challenge work for you?