Last night, a concept started buzzing in my brain and wouldn’t let go.
- My day was filled with fascinating conversations.
- Many focused on getting to joy.
- A pattern started to come into focus.
It all revolved around the price of joy.
- If we want to be more joyful, we have to let go of being not joyful.
- Sounds simple.
- Until you start digging.
For example, if I want more fun in my life, I need to let go of some of the unfun aspects.
- What I am currently doing is not making my life fun – so I need to try new things.
- If I try new things, I may fail.
- Am I willing to let go of being perfect to infuse my life with more fun – and know that I am good enough?
Or, if I want to be weigh less, I need to let go of some of the benefits of weighing more.
- People don’t have as high expectations for people who carry extra weight compared to those in great shape.
- As a smaller person, my excuse for not performing or excelling will have melted away.
- Am I willing to give myself permission to excel beyond my wildest dreams – and feel worthy of it?
Every aspect I want to bring to joy has a cost to pay.
- The associated costs are different person to person.
- Usually, if you dig long enough, they tie to outdated lack beliefs.
- Not being worthy, good enough, deserving and more.
So here’s the mind-boggling part…(Drum roll please)
- What if the only thing standing between you and joy is simply old beliefs?
- What if things like owning your worth, believing you are good enough and deserve more are the real accelerators for more joy?
- Then the true question becomes, do you want more joy in your life?
Are you willing to pay the price for joy?
Oh what a night I had!
- Turn-on and more!
I danced across the emotional rainbow.
- Escalating in tandem.
- Playing it straight.
- Shifting gears on command.
I emoted a lifetime in my improv class last night!
- To do it well, I had to just let go.
- Be totally in the moment.
- And listen to my partner.
The more I embraced being in my emotions, the more I just responded.
- I didn’t care what I said.
- My filter was crumbled.
- It was really cool!
I grew up always having to be careful what I said.
- I was the responsible one.
- I was the oldest.
- I carried the weight of the world on my back way too often.
To just let go without care for consequence is a totally new experience for me.
- It took a few classes for me to be willing to give it try.
- Now I’ve done it, the world looks totally different.
- Came home on a total high.
What training are you doing to open yourself up for more joy in your life?
Do you remember the first time you drove a car?
- I remember like it was yesterday.
- It was a beautiful Michigan winter day.
- Snow and ice everywhere.
I was on my way to my first driver’s education class.
- I worried because first thing they did was put you on the driving range to see what you knew.
- I knew nothing – except what I had casually observed.
- Yes, I was one of the few kids to have never driven a car before class started.
My dad gave me a little pep talk about how I would be fine.
- “Just pretend you have an egg between your foot and the accelerator pedal.”
- In hindsight, I realize he wanted me to drive slow and be gentle.
- In the moment, I took him literally.
The driving range was located in the high school parking lot.
- Thankfully it had been scraped pretty well.
- Only patches of ice here and there.
- Lots of little orange cones.
“Miss Miller, shall we do it?” my instructor beckoned.
- I walked to the car a bundle of nerves.
- Over and over in my head I chanted my dad’s advice.
- Whatever you do, don’t break the egg!
The egg image got me in a dash of trouble…
- If I put on the car’s brake, the egg could roll around and crack.
- So I did not use the brake.
- Just a steadily increasing gentle pressure on the accelerator to keep the egg in place.
In other words, I was a bit of a speed demon.
- Pretty much spinning out on every turn and patch of ice.
- My instructor used the second brake on his side to keep us from crashing.
- I had one of the shortest test drives of the day.
And it was AMAZING!
- I was driving!
- It was as if every receptor in my body was set on super awareness!
- I was totally high!
My driver’s ed teacher was slightly less impressed.
- I wasn’t allowed to drive on the range without a second brake person in the car with me for several weeks.
- And I didn’t care.
- It was such a rush to drive – I LOVED it!
When I first started tapping into joy, the feelings I had were a lot like that first drive.
- I felt totally alive.
- Tingled with energy.
- Could barely stand to be in my skin.
I realized today my tolerance for joy is increasing.
- While joy feels really great, it’s not a scary, super-aware kind of feeling.
- It just feels really good.
- And I’m super aware when it’s not there.
How does joy feel to you?
- Do you still buzz with newness?
- Or are you getting more comfortable as you build capacity for joy?