- Do you ever feel pressure to be perfect?
- Always try to do 110% on anything you do?
- Cringe when you get less than perfect feedback?
Many of us have been brainwashed to believe that we have to do it all – make that do-it-all frickingly-amazingly-well!
- I spent a good part of my life being an overachiever.
- It literally hurt to be less than what I perceived as perfect.
- I called my reluctance to produce procrastination.
My obsession to be perfect got in the way of achieving my goals.
(Can anyone relate to that?)
As women, believing we must be perfect can also get in our way of being more powerful.
Becoming more powerful is messy.
- We have to break long-held rules about being good girls.
- We have to try on new skills.
- We will periodically need to start over – and/or upgrade – just like computer software.
A few years ago, I toyed with blogging about my journey to being more fit.
- My concern was if I did, people would notice I wasn’t in fabulous shape. (Shaking my head.)
- Somehow I thought if I didn’t talk about it, my lack of perfection would not be noticed.
- I decided to go public anyhow, lost a ton of weight – and did not die in the process.
Believing it’s okay to come out as less than perfect is one way to ironically believe more in ourselves.
- We are willing to admit to being human.
- We discover people don’t care about what we do as much as we thought.
- We give ourselves the space to discover what works – and know we’ll eventually find the right path.
Giving yourself permission to experiment opens you up to more power.
- You are able to try new skills and attitudes on for size.
- Do a few adjustments.
- And try again with an even better fit.
I’m doing this with my powerful woman training program.
- In January I called it “30 Days to a More Powerful You!”
- Four modules at a fast pace with amazing coaching calls.
- The participants loved the content – and needed more time.
Enter round two: Embrace Your Feminine Power: Boost Your Professional (and Personal) Success!
- Same content spread over eight weeks so participants have time to give their new power skills – and learn from each other’s experiences.
- Eight coaching calls instead of four – people LOVED the support in the calls!
- New: Daily Pop of Power from me – a micro-email to help participants keep their focus and grow more.
Is this the ultimate format for teaching women to be more powerful?
- I’m not sure.
- Every woman made huge leaps in just four weeks.
- I’ve got to believe more time, more coaching and daily reminders will have an even bigger impact.
And if I need to tweak it again, I will.
- I’ve learned adjusting my work is not the end of the Earth.
- It’s exciting to let the world know I’m a creator.
- And committed to improving myself – rather than being stuck in perfection.
Growth, like feminine power, is only limited by our minds.
I’ve let going of being perfect. Have you?
For more information about Cynthia’s powerful woman 2.0 program, click here. Class starts on March 5th.
Saturday night, James and I decided to do a TV date.
- He wasn’t feeling that great.
- Needed to lay low.
- Plus we had good stuff to watch.
Midway through the date, I got up to fix dinner.
- We ate in the family room.
- Enjoyed the food.
- And continued our viewing.
An hour later, James could not find his phone.
- He had been playing on it earlier.
- And it disappeared around dinner.
- Poof! Just like magic.
We looked everywhere.
- Under the couch.
- Around the room- including the secret places where the dogs hide their toys.
- Even under the dogs and their blankets.
I called his phone with mine.
- He had turned the ringer off.
- Where did the darn phone go?
Later that night, James found his phone.
- It was on the couch where he had been lying.
- Sort of under GiGi.
- Hidden in plain site.
The missing phone made me think about women and power.
- Every woman has access to being more powerful.
- It is within her reach.
- And easy to find if you just look with fresh eyes.
If you want to be more powerful but aren’t quite sure where to look, check out my 30 Days to a More Powerful You! program. Next session starts Feb. 17th. Join us.
Last night, I felt like I was watching pharmaceutical TV given all the ads for drugs.
- They had the big promise.
- And then the endless list of potential scary side effects.
- With lovely music and video in the background.
I decided perhaps I too should come clean on potential side effects women may experience as they embrace their feminine power.
- I just did a coaching call with the 30 Days to a More Powerful You! participants yesterday.
- It was only week #3 – and they all noticed changes.
- Embracing your power can have powerful side effects very quickly.
95.7% of the women I’ve taught to be more powerful find themselves smiling more.
- It feels good to own your power.
- You walk taller.
- And have more confidence in yourself.
You will probably see the world with different eyes.
- As you embrace your feminine power, you’ll notice the contrast compared to those who do not.
- You may wonder how you missed the signs before.
- And want to help other women.
Things you only dreamed about may become more possible.
- You’ll notice it takes a lot less energy to get things done with your feminine power turned on.
- You may have extra time on your hands because things happen more easily.
- Your mind may begin to get excited about options of what can be.
Additional potential side effects include:
- You may be asked to turn in your “I’m a victim” membership card.
- You may need to watch what you say because people will start to actually listen to you.
- Finally, you’ll need to become accustomed to increased positive notice by peers and supervisors.
All of the side effects mentioned above are very common when women embrace their feminine power.
- Eventually they adjust to all the good stuff in their lives.
- No one has died from unleashing their power yet.
- Unless you count letting go of the “less-than” experiences you no longer need to tolerate in your life.
There I feel better now – transparency rocks!
If you want to become a more powerful woman (in spite of the potential side effects listed above), the next session of 30 Days to a More Powerful You! starts on February 17th. Click here for more information and to register.
We love attending the Michigan Women’s Basketball games.
- The athletes are passionate.
- The games intense.
- We have season tickets.
Last night we decided to go over early to the game.
- We have our favorite seats behind the team.
- There was a big push to encourage attendance.
- We wanted our spots.
Dressed in our Michigan fan gear, we left for the game.
- The stadium is about four miles from our house.
- About two miles into our drive, I realized I had forgotten our tickets at home.
- So much for arriving early.
I turned the car around to go back to our house.
- I was frustrated and disappointed.
- I hate to arrive last minute and be rushed.
- And I should have double checked before leaving.
My stomach started to twist and turn.
- By the time I turned onto our street it was in a knot.
- I felt ill.
James said to me, “You need to bring your energy back up.”
- What was he talking about?
- I was being quiet in my pain and disappointment – or so I thought.
My body was in full contraction mode.
- When we contract, we block our power.
- Our bodies give off messages to others when we are contracted as well.
- James knew I was beating myself up and crumpling – he didn’t know how sick I was feeling.
When he ran into the house to get the tickets, I did a scan of my body.
- I decided to just let go.
- We probably missed being in an accident by turning around.
- Plus we were right on time given our early start.
As soon as I made the decision to let go, my stomach felt fine.
- James could tell the difference when he got in the car.
- I was once again ready to have a good time.
- And it showed.
Anyone else notice how your body talks to you by contracting – and the impact it has on others?
- Great clothes.
- Fabulous hair.
- Perfect makeup.
All trumped by how you hold your body.
- When you don’t feel powerful it shows.
- In how you sit or stand.
- The way you hold your head.
Power is an internal job expressed externally.
- It’s all about you.
- Wonderful, amazing you.
- You aren’t broken – you just need to unleash your power.
If a hidden camera took a photo of you at work today, what would your body say about your power?
Not sure what you need to do to change your power story? The 30 Days to a More Powerful You! program can help.
Register now – the next session starts Monday, January 19th.
Melanie (not her real name) is chair of a fairly powerful team for her professional association.
- She worked her way up to chair.
- It’s her year to shine.
- And further establish herself as a powerful leader.
Her association invested in online space for all their volunteer efforts.
- Melanie is an avid user.
- Posts everything in the system.
- Even lets it auto-send meeting notices.
All members need to do is remember to check in periodically.
- But they don’t.
- So meetings are missed.
- Members are frustrated.
There is also grumbling about Melanie as a leader.
- They don’t feel like a team.
- She doesn’t send personal emails.
- They thought she would “be a better leader.”
Melanie is using a high-tech, low-touch approach that’s leaving people cold.
- When people like you and trust you, your power base grows.
- The lack of personal touch is detracting from Melanie’s power reputation.
- She needs to start using regular emails to her team in addition to the online space to rebuild connection and emotional bond.
Do members of your team feel emotionally connected to you?
Want to grow your personal power but not sure where to start? 30 Days to a More Powerful You! can show you the way. Starts January 19th.
Last week I flew home in the middle of a nasty and frigid snowstorm.
- I wasn’t arriving until 7:30 PM.
- I asked James to bring an extra blanket with him.
- I had worn lighter clothes and was not prepared for the chill.
When James picked me up he was already a bit frazzled.
- The roads were slippery.
- The snow made it hard to see.
- Although just under 30 miles away, it had taken him forever to get to the airport.
We got my luggage in the car and me bundled with the blanket.
- Slowly pulled back out to drive home.
- My intuition was going wild with red flags.
- When we turned onto the main road, I found out why.
James suddenly hit something on the road.
- We bounced a bit.
- I broke a nail.
- Pop went our tire.
Thankfully we were across the street from the airport cell phone lot and able to get the car over there.
- Unluckily, it was -15 wind chill and snowing like crazy.
- We had an almost flat spare tire in the trunk.
- And the tire jack had rusted to the car – never used in more than 10 years.
I called AAA and started focusing on my breathing like I do when I meditate.
- It took almost a half hour to get a live person on the phone.
- They predicted it would take two hours for someone to get to us.
- Could we stay warm for that long?
We cycled the car engine on for a few minutes to warm us up, then off for a lot more.
- We weren’t sure how long it would take – what if it was three hours?
- Plus, we wondered how long would it take us to get home with a tiny spare tire given the storm.
- I was thankful James had brought the extra blanket for me!
The AAA guy showed up an hour early.
- Blew up our spare.
- Confirmed no damage to tie rods.
- And got us ready to go.
The drive home on 1-94 was nerve-wrecking.
- The front right tire was smaller than the other three and had NO traction.
- The road was a mess of snow and ice.
- People were still driving fast.
We finally got home almost three hours after James initially picked me up.
- We were tired but okay.
- I was in a very peaceful place.
- My months of meditating every day had paid off big time.
How do you stay strong when it would be so easy to feel like a victim?
On Wednesday morning, I was scheduled to fly to St. Louis.
- It was bitter cold out.
- Sub-zero windchill.
- Had a nerve-wracking drive to the Detroit airport.
To my surprise and delight, my flight was on time.
- I boarded the plane and got comfortable.
- The attendant mentioned the plane didn’t need to be de-iced.
- And then the captain made the announcement…
“We are going to be delayed due to a water hose being stuck to the plane.”
- The plane next to us blew snow on us when they pushed back.
- One of the ground crew jumped into action – he knew that snow would make us have to take time for de-icing.
- He grabbed a nearby water hose and sprayed the snow to make it go away.
As you can guess, given the -21 wind chill, the ground crew guy iced the plane brilliantly.
- I’m betting he freaked out and tossed the water hose down.
- It immediately froze solid to the wing..
- The crew couldn’t remove the hose from the plane without hurting the plane.
A single water hose grounded a plane that carried almost 200 people.
- When the captain made his announcement, people giggled.
- Anyone remember sticking their tongue to an icy pole?
- Luckily, no one started singing “Let It Go!”
The frozen hose triggered a big domino effect that lasted an hour.
- Once finally removed, we had to wait for the ground crew to finish mandatory warming up so they could push us back.
- Then, of course, we were off to the de-icing station.
- Thankfully, the rest of my travel that day was much easier!
Makes me think about being more powerful…How often do we let potentially avoidable little things hold us back?