I need some help.
- The intergalactic holiday is almost upon us.
- The celebration starts next Thursday.
- I want to infuse it with joy.
Birthdays were not a big deal for me growing up.
- They were literally painful when I was young.
- I had tonsillitis almost every year on my birthday.
- Thankfully my tonsils were removed in sixth grade.
I still didn’t get the big birthday celebration.
- My brother’s birthday was five days after mine.
- My mom and dad both worked.
- We often had to share a birthday cake.
Then my brother married a woman who’s birthday was the same day as mine.
- (What were the odds of that happening?)
- Obsessed with being fair, my mom often gave my sister-in-law and I the exact same gifts.
- And we were very different people!
Fast forward to my commitment to joy…
- It’s time to break old habits.
- MY old habits of downplaying and not liking anything birthday.
- To try something new.
I need your help and ideas.
- James is all for anything that makes me happy.
- Eating out is not that fun due to my food allergies.
- And I don’t really want stuff – I have enough.
What might a joyful birthday experience be if not a restaurant meal or things?
- Do you have any deliciously fun ideas?
- I need help getting my imagination off the ground here.
Please share your ideas below in the comments.
Last night in belly dance class we worked on our walks.
- We lined up across from the mirror to see our body as we moved.
- Jen, my teacher, gave the instructions.
- Right – hip up. Left – hip up…
I was transported back in time watching my hip-rolling walk!
- I remembered becoming aware of the power of a woman’s hips in sixth grade.
- I practiced for hours walking with my hips exaggerated.
- Ooooh yeah! I was almost grown up!
Fast forward to college, stiletto heels and nights at the clubs.
- By that time, I had my walk down pat.
- It was slow, swinging and mesmerizing.
- My walk was my not-so-secret weapon in my man-hunting maneuvers.
I’m not sure why or when my hip-rolling walk disappeared.
- Did I use up my subscription for the walk?
- Shut it down when I taught eighth grade?
- Leave my body for a life focused in my head?
Whatever the reason, the walk came back last night – big time.
- Muscle memory activated.
- I couldn’t stop giggling in class.
- Suddenly a lot of the belly dance moves I’ve been learning made sense.
My hips are still awake this morning.
- I’m going to spend the weekend figuring out my new relationship with them.
- I could just let my hips fly when doing belly dance.
- BUT, I’m still giggling too much thinking about unleashing them regularly on the world!
What joy-inspired moves are hidden in your muscle memory?
Last night my improv troupe hashed our show from last week.
- What did we hear from others?
- What went well?
- What did we wonder about?
One of the topics that came up was when to let go of an idea.
- In improv, there is no script.
- Audience members may offer suggestions.
- Scene partners have ideas too.
Sometimes, your scene partner has no idea what you are talking about when you pitch the initial frame.
- You can make a strong opening statement.
- And they take the ball and run a totally different direction than you expected.
- When do you let go of your vision for the scene and dance with your partner to uncharted territory?
That conversation hit home hard for me.
- For much I’ve my life, I’ve been the responsible one.
- Marge in Charge.
- Trying to take care of too many people.
Doing improv, I’m supposed to say the first thing that comes to mind.
- And play with my scene partner.
- No matter how they respond.
- It’s all about co-creation.
In the beginning, there were times where I felt sick because I let go.
- To my surprise the world did not end when I loosened the reins.
- I had to work through a little (some) (okay maybe a lot of) guilt.
- And even had some fun not being in charge.
Doing improv gave me a safe space to explore giving control to others.
- It took a few weeks to embrace.
- Now I like not being in charge all the time – in all areas of my life.
- It’s shocking to some – which makes it even funnier!
What is it time for you to let go of in your life for at least for a little bit?