Often, the best thing you can do for yourself is lavish yourself with self-care.
- Whether it’s a really crummy day.
- Or a really fantastic day.
- (Self-care is finding ways to show yourself how much you love yourself.)
A self-care practice can make a huge difference in everything you do!
(James is hanging out with the eight-foot tall teddy bears at Costco.)
And I only live three miles away!
Today was my first day back in the gym and my goal to walk one mile.
- Without dying.
- Passing out
- Or otherwise embarrassing myself.
A little over two years ago I could:
- Run almost 10K.
- Squat with 165 pounds on my back.
- Do a gazillion push ups. (That’s the technical term.)
Today, I am so out of shape…
- So I stewed about it.
- For a FIVE hours.
- And dreaded going to the gym.
Finally I got out of my chair and drove myself over.
- And walked a mile.
- It wasn’t pretty.
- I was the slowest person on the track.
But I did it. I survived. I started the new chapter of my life.
What do you need to get off your couch to go do TODAY?
When my dad died in February 2013, lots changed in my life.
- I learned about grief.
- Got swamped with family challenges.
- And totally stopped working out.
I’ve periodically tinkered at getting back to working out and you know how it goes…
- Walk three days – and get too busy.
- Love dance classes – but they twist out your knees.
- Never a fit – and always an excuse to stop.
Finally I decided it was time to go back to the community college gym I’d worked out at for three years prior to Dad’s passing.
- I felt nauseous to go there.
- Joked about my “walk of shame” in returning.
- And sort of believed it.
When I got to the gym my worst nightmares did not happen.
- No one laughed when I walked in.
- I wasn’t called lazy and fat.
- The hot guy who signed me back up was professional and kind.
So where the heck did the whole walk of shame concept come from?
- It definitely wasn’t anyone at the gym.
- So it must have been me!
- And it was neither true nor accurate.
Since it was my personal, self-limiting belief, it was also mine to release – and so I did.
- I thanked the belief for its service.
- Shared that it no longer fit me.
- And sent it on its way!
When you hear the voice in your head trying to slow you down, do you listen and believe – or pause, take a breath and challenge the truth of what you are hearing?
I am a proud Michigan State graduate.
- I loved going to school there.
- Was very involved.
- Even helped run the spirit block at the football games.
In 1993, I moved to the Center of the Evil Empire (also called Ann Arbor) – for love.
- What else could cause this loyal Spartan to embrace the world of Maize and Blue?
- (Ann Arbor is home to the University of Michigan.)
- I loved James – a lot.
For years, my blood ran proudly and loudly green.
- I cheered for Michigan State – and anyone playing Michigan!
- On football Saturdays, I was one of the few in our complex cheering when the other guys scored.
- (Sometimes I wondered for my safety.)
This die-hard dedication lasted for a good 15 or so years.
- I learned to enjoy a lot the U has to offer to the community.
- Avoided football games.
- Stayed a proud Spartan!
Then we started attending Michigan Women’s Basketball games.
- At first they were inexpensive entertainment.
- James wore maize and blue – and I wore anything but.
- I loved watching the women play.
About three years ago, my Michigan resistance began to melt.
- We became season ticket holders.
- Felt connected more to the team.
- I felt silly not wearing my team’s colors.
That year, a cheerleader threw a free t-shirt right at me.
- In my size.
- Big block M.
- I decided I could wear the maize t-shirt (just for the games) to support my team.
This year, things feel even more personal.
- We’ve chatted with staff and coaches.
- Learned the back story on some of the athletes.
- I am so proud of many of them…
Last night, I got dressed for a play-off game.
- Put on my Michigan shirt.
- Looked in the mirror.
- And wished I had some cute block M earrings to go with it…
What the heck??? Did hell just freeze over?
- Have I become one of those crazy Michigan fans who accessorize in maize and blue?
- What happened to my green blood?
- Is Sparty going to strike me down?
After a few deep calming breathes I realized it was all okay.
- I attended MSU for four years – and lived in Ann Arbor for more than 20.
- I love Tom Izzo and MSU Men’s Basketball.
- And I love Michigan’s Women’s Basketball.
I have room for both in my life – and am now looking for some cute block M earrings.
Question for leaders… Is your loyalty to a fond memory getting in the way of your present-day success – and delight?
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Saturday night, James and I decided to do a TV date.
- He wasn’t feeling that great.
- Needed to lay low.
- Plus we had good stuff to watch.
Midway through the date, I got up to fix dinner.
- We ate in the family room.
- Enjoyed the food.
- And continued our viewing.
An hour later, James could not find his phone.
- He had been playing on it earlier.
- And it disappeared around dinner.
- Poof! Just like magic.
We looked everywhere.
- Under the couch.
- Around the room- including the secret places where the dogs hide their toys.
- Even under the dogs and their blankets.
I called his phone with mine.
- He had turned the ringer off.
- Where did the darn phone go?
Later that night, James found his phone.
- It was on the couch where he had been lying.
- Sort of under GiGi.
- Hidden in plain site.
The missing phone made me think about women and power.
- Every woman has access to being more powerful.
- It is within her reach.
- And easy to find if you just look with fresh eyes.
Last night, I felt like I was watching pharmaceutical TV given all the ads for drugs.
- They had the big promise.
- And then the endless list of potential scary side effects.
- With lovely music and video in the background.
I decided perhaps I too should come clean on potential side effects women may experience as they embrace their feminine power.
- I just did a coaching call with the 30 Days to a More Powerful You! participants yesterday.
- It was only week #3 – and they all noticed changes.
- Embracing your power can have powerful side effects very quickly.
95.7% of the women I’ve taught to be more powerful find themselves smiling more.
- It feels good to own your power.
- You walk taller.
- And have more confidence in yourself.
You will probably see the world with different eyes.
- As you embrace your feminine power, you’ll notice the contrast compared to those who do not.
- You may wonder how you missed the signs before.
- And want to help other women.
Things you only dreamed about may become more possible.
- You’ll notice it takes a lot less energy to get things done with your feminine power turned on.
- You may have extra time on your hands because things happen more easily.
- Your mind may begin to get excited about options of what can be.
Additional potential side effects include:
- You may be asked to turn in your “I’m a victim” membership card.
- You may need to watch what you say because people will start to actually listen to you.
- Finally, you’ll need to become accustomed to increased positive notice by peers and supervisors.
All of the side effects mentioned above are very common when women embrace their feminine power.
- Eventually they adjust to all the good stuff in their lives.
- No one has died from unleashing their power yet.
- Unless you count letting go of the “less-than” experiences you no longer need to tolerate in your life.
There I feel better now – transparency rocks!